Marks Experience
I am 31, Jewish and white. I am 5'6" and 200 pd. (I am a bit overweight but working on the problem.....)I live in the West Hollywood/Beverly Hills area of L.A., California. I have dark brown hair, with some gray. I keep it cut moderately short. I wear glasses or contacts. I am not into sports as such, but well play if asked. I am quite shy.
I have always been interested in spanking ever since I can remember though I wasn’t spanked for misbehaving. I was usually grounded left to be punished for longer periods of time instead of getting a spanking and being forgiven right away.
Anything having anything to do with the subject had my full attention. I remember seeing cartoons, or sitcoms that referred to spankings and being really interested in them. I to used to look up all the pertaining words in the dictionary. I used to grill my friends about how they were punished but usually did not get any satisfactory answers, only vague descriptions, As I got older I would try to get such information from kids I baby-sat, I even took the opportunity to deliver a few playful swats.
When I was 15 or 16 I finally got a neighbor kid, who was a year or two younger then me to spank me. I got him took make a bet that resulted in the loser getting a bare bottom spanking. I purposely lost and finally got what I was after. Although that first one wasn’t very severe at all. I was in heaven. These games continued for quite a while, I had to ante up money by making the typical bets being if I lost I got a couple of 100 smacks with a paddle and gave him 5 dollars. This is probably what got him to continue doing this stuff. After a while I started video taping these sessions and still have the tape. As time went on he started submitting to spankings himself and I believe he really enjoyed what we were doing. He eventually moved a way and I was at a loss as how to continue my addiction.
It was about this time that I discovered a book called the Penthouse Letters in my brother’s room. It had a chapter on spanking in it, although it dealt with mostly the female getting spanked I was in heaven when I read those letters. To me it meant that my desires were normal and that I might be able to find someone else who would spank me. I began collecting magazines and videos myself although they to dealt mostly with females being spanked ect.
Years went by with me collecting magazines. I am quite shy and pretty much lacked the self confidence to date. Till this date although I have several real close female friends I have just begun dating.
When I was about 24 I finally got the nerve to call an outcall Mistress to my parents house while they were away. I told her of my desire to be spanked and paddled and she said she could do the job. I was scared as hell but she came and gave me a spanking, I was too nervous to have an erection and she seemed very disappointed in this, as she wanted to get into cock torture. All in all although it wasn’t exactly what I was after I was still happy that I got to be spanked.
Another year or so went by before I went to see another Mistress this time I was more clear in explaining my desire to be punished. We set a scenario where she was my school principal and I was sent to her for punishment. She gave me a good spanking and paddling even used the riding crop on me that I felt was a little too severe. She was disappointed too that I didn’t have an erection but things did go a lot better.
It was about this time that I discovered videos from Control T. Studios. At last I found videos with males getting spankings. The fact that they were getting it from other males didn’t bother me at all in fact it pleased me. I figured that the only way I would be able to continue getting what I wanted without going broke would be to take my own ad out in a newspaper called New Reality ( the same one I found both Mistresses in). The ad read—"Hi, I’m Mark. I need a good spanking, strapping or paddling. If you’re the guy or gal to punish me call 818-559-1676. No sex No $$ just good old fashioned discipline." Meanwhile I went down to a place called The pleasure Chest and bought a number of different straps and paddles. I immediately began getting phone calls.
Apparently the No $$ part intrigued a lot of people. I only got calls from guys and I began to see some of them. The only problem I encountered was a location to use. I had roommates at the time and the apartment was not well suited for this type of stuff. The first guy I saw I went to Long Beach to say, about an hour drive from me without traffic. I went on a rainy Sunday.
He was an older gentleman who lived in an old rundown building. He was an older gentleman who lived in an old rundown building. He said he was bisexual but would abode with my wishes. I got him to act in a scenario that I stole some items from his shop and he was going to call the police or punish me himself....I would agree to his punishment. He started with the scenario he made me strip and lie over the edge of his bed and he started to paddle and strap me, but he kept breaking character and kept asking questions like "is that to much? Do you like this instrument better? Do you want a break? I too like the scenario to be as real as possible and that was reel annoying. I discovered that this would be a problem with most of the people I saw.
My second experience was a little better, I got a good hard paddling from a guy who lived not far from me. Still it was not as real as I had fantasized about. I saw a half a dozen more people some of which wanted a sexual angle that I didn’t want. He gave every strike full strength and made each one count. I had promised myself that I would take all the person wanted to give without stopping them. He finally asked if I wanted more...this time I was happy to say no. He left me quite bruised but even so if he had called again I probably would have seen him. I only saw each of the people once, perhaps they were waiting for me to call and I was waiting for them to call. I don’t know.
The weirdest experience I had was from a guy who called himself cowboy. He worked at the Museum of Art out here and I met him there. I met him during a fifteen minute break that he had. He took me into the basement of the museum. Unfortunately he was into the Master/Slave thing and while I went along with it during the short time we met it was not what I wanted. He gave me a decent albeit short strapping. He called a couple of more times but I was to worried about what he really wanted to see him again.
The best experience I had from the ad was meeting a large biker looking guy at my parents house. Although he wasn’t into playing out a scenario, he wasn’t into instruments either. He gave me a real long over the knee hand spanking. The spanking left me real sore but not bruised. I would have liked to see him again also.
Actually I did see someone twice. He was a guy slightly younger then me. Although he was gay and said he wanted a more sexual experience, he gave me a good spanking and paddling and allowed me to give him a good hand spanking back.
The ad ran out and the calls stopped coming. I started trying to meet people through the local BBS and saw a couple of more people that way. One person tied me down and handcuffed me and gave me a good paddling, this was an interesting experience because I had no control I felt that there was the possibility that anything could happen. I did get a couple of more spanking it still wasn’t the real mind trip that I desire until my next experience.
I began corresponded with an older gentleman who had been into spanking and having submissive woman. He seemed genially interested in playing out the whole mind trip thing. I wrote him about real things I should be punished for and he agreed to become my guidance counselor. We rarely "chatted" out of character and finally arranged a meeting for coffee. We met in character, and he told me that he could help straighten out my problems. He told me he believed in corporal punishment and if I agree to let him be my counselor he would be using it on me. I agreed and made a meeting at a later date also at my parents house. I had to write an essay about my bad points and good points. He came in character read the list and began drilling me on it. He had me bend over a barstool, pull down my pants and began to paddle and strap me with each of my instruments while chastising me for my behavior. The whole mind trip thing was great and though it ended sooner then I expected I was happy and eager to meet this guy again. Unfortunately a couple of days later he informed that the experience of spanking a guy did nothing for him and he didn’t want to meet again.
As far as fantasies go I would love to be in a situation where I had to report for discipline on a weekly basis. I really have no preference about who the spanker is, he can be a father figure, a shopkeeper, a teacher/counselor or even a friend my age whom I lose a bet with. I would love to be in a situation where I was spanked by two people at the same time, each of them taking a cheek or alternating when they were tired. I would also like to be spanked in a group situation where my brothers or friends would be spanked at the same time—much like the discussions on The Board of late. In this scenario I see a couple of friends/brothers and I getting into trouble for something that was all my fault. We all get spanked by out father figure but afterwards they hold me down and give me a spanking to get even for getting them in trouble. Another one of my fantasies would be to join a club/frat where the other pledges and me had to take a spanking from each and every one of the members. I don’t usually fantasize about giving the spankings but I enjoy it when I get the chance. I would also like to spend a long weekend somewhere where I have to submit to several spankings a day.
As far as clothing is concerned I usually see myself as being made to strip. I like the idea of being made to strip in front of other people to submit to a spanking.
As far as instruments are concerned I prefer to receive my spankings in a progression of more painful instruments. Ideally I would like to receive a long over-the-knee hand spanking progressing to the ping pong paddle and spanking paddle while still over-the-knee. After it seems that I can take no more the spanking stops and I am asked to stand. I think it is over but I am then asked to bend over a barstool or bed where I have to take a strapping, and then a paddling with the larger, heavier paddles. Needless to say I sometimes prefer heavier punishments and don’t really mind being left bruised for a couple of days as long as it’s done in a realistic mind tripping style.
I have collected a number of instruments over the years. I have leather paddles, wooden paddles, razor straps, and tawses. I also have about 50 videos on the subject.
Ultimately, (and this is kinda a non related subject) I would love to serve a Mistress, or a dominant woman at least. I prefer to let the woman take charge of things. I think giving sexual pleasure is more important then receiving it. In a way I think I may be Asexual. I have know real desire to have sex...but I do fantasize about orally serving a woman.
One more recent experience went as follows... I met a guy who answered my new ad. He had me male a list of all the things I should be punished for. We met and he went over my list and began to spank me first on my jeans and then on two my shorts and then bare. Mostly over his knees using the various paddles and straps that I have and the ones that he had. He also used his hand alot. This went on for most of an hour. I was left a bit bruised for 3 or 4 days but I would rank this experience right up there.
Some additional thoughts...
I don’t get sexually aroused during my actual spankings. In fact I’m usually wondering why I put myself in these positions usually I’m in alot of pain. Afterwards though I am usually already trying to plan my next encounter. The anticipation and reflection is a great turn on. If I am asked during a session if I am ready to stop I almost invariably say yes and sometimes I regret giving up when I probably could have taken more. As far as spanking others goes I can get into it if the person wants it too, but i especially like it if the person looks or is younger then me.
Another addendum
I currently have ads running in No Nonsense Ladies, Shadow Lane’s Scene One, CTS’s Hot Bottoms and a of course Behind The Scenes. I am meeting new people through computer bulletin boards as well. I am receiving spanking an the average of every two weeks or more. I recently attended Shadow Lane Halloween Party ‘94 and '95 where I had a great time. I have a whole essay devoted to that experience if you want to read it. I also have a male disciplinarian who I see regularly or as often as I need it but I still enjoy making all the new contacts I can. In fact I've seen several new people recently. The computer has been a great aid to find spankers although for the most part they have been males. Newsgroups like alt.sex.spanking and alt.sex.spanking.personals have been a great aid to see just how many people are into this sort of thing. There was even a long thread where other straight guys posted about why the like getting spanked by other guys. The stories and pictures are great also. I now have hundreds of pictures and stories save on my hard drive.