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PERSPECTIVE FROM A MAN’S KNEE

A Monograph on Spanking from a ‘Boy’s’ Point of View

by SANDY

A friend recently suggested that I write a non-fiction piece on spanking from a boy/bottom’s point of view. At first I thought, "Who will want to read something like that? It isn’t a spanking story fraught with the powerful emotions that spanking evokes, and I’ve done no research to make it educational (educational??!!). Then I thought, why would I want to write about that? I like to write stories that liberate my own fantasies about the spanking situations I would like to be in. Situations like this one from "3 D.A.D.s / 3 boys."

Peter sat on a kitchen stool with a sheet wrapped around his neck and cried. Tears ran down his cheeks and made the falling hair stick to his face. Every so often he would give a little wail and plead with his DAD.

"DADDY, please, don’t cut it so short; I don’t like it."

James stopped brushing back his son’s thick brown hair and suddenly thrust the hairbrush in front of Peter’s face.

"If you don’t stop that bawling, I’m gonna use the back of this brush to give you something to cry about," James said angrily. "It’s summertime, and where I grew up down south, that meant it was time for a boy to get a baldy, and that’s what your DADDY is gonna give you."

Peter opened his mouth and howled and more tears ran down his face.

"That’s it!" James said. He grabbed Peter’s upper arm and hauled him, sheet and all off the stool. James sat on the stool himself, picked Peter up under the arms, and put him across his knees.

"No, DADDY! I’m sorry! I’ll stop!" Peter wailed.

"Too late, son," James said between gritted teeth, he chewed his cigar to a comfortable corner of his mouth, "it’s time for a good spanky!"

James had undressed the boy before tying the long bed sheet around his neck; he had decided that it was stupid to get a clean pair of clothes all full of hair. So now, all he had to do to was turn up the long bed sheet to bare Peter from waist to toes.

Peter tried to turn his head to offer a last plea to his father, but James took hold of Peter’s head, turned it around and pushed it down so all Peter could look at was the floor.

"You don’t have any business back here," James said, getting a good, solid grip on the hairbrush. "Your business is to look at the floor and cry, my business is to spank the living daylights out of your little fantan!"

James lost no time. He had a job to do and he did it in a businesslike manner. The hairbrush was employed with manly efficiency and Peter soon had a very red, very hot backside. Peter, for his part, did his ‘assigned business’, he looked at the floor and cried...very, very loudly and wetly.

Well, perhaps this passage is a good reason to try and present something from my own point of view as a particular man who likes to feel like a boy with another man. Maybe it will help you DADS, with boys like me under your palm, to understand just what it is that we hope to get from you.

You might be surprised to discover ideas that didn’t occur to you before and ideas which resonate to your own natural instincts as a DAD.

For openers, I am going to make some assumptions:

1. I’m going to assume that everyone reading this article is either a boy or a DAD (D.A.D. if you’ve read my stories).

2. I’m going to assume that if you’re a DAD that you ‘get off’ on control, and if you’re a’boy’, you get off on ‘being controlled.’

3. I’m going to assume that all DADS and boys have a need for some emotional contact. If you don’t - go out and spank a stone.... or get spanked by a windmill.

4. I’m going to assume that all DADS and boys care about each other and want to construct a pleasurable experience. After all, although they aren’t always inclusive, a warmly (or hotly) spanked boy, might also be extremely available for other hot experiences. Similarly, a DAD who has administered a really proper correction to his ‘son’s’ backside, is now ready to offer the emotional support that a sobbing and properly-spanked boy desperately needs.

Classic DAD/son relationships

Adult ‘boys’ are eager to recreate a FATHER/son scenario. Perhaps they were deprived of a fulfilling emotional, physical bonding with their own DAD and are now desperate to find it in another man.

This need can only be fulfilled if certain ‘givens’ take place:

1. The DAD is capable of both loving and taking charge of his son.

2. The son is really willing to surrender control to his DAD.

3. Both DAD and son are caring enough to learn about the other’s needs and demonstrate a willingness to meet them.

Real FATHERS offer their sons a variety of supports: they protect them, they give them affection, they teach them and guide them, they play with them and they PUNISH them (Isn’t "punish" a lovely word?!).

Real FATHERS are often guided, in their fathering, by biological instincts. Men in DAD roles, may need to learn some of these instinctive behaviors in order to be fully satisfying POPS to their sons.

Here are some of the instinctive and learned behaviors that are classically associated with DADS in relation to their boys:

1. DADS hold their son’s hands and lead them. They like the feeling of holding their boy’s hand, and boys delight in the feel of their father’s strong fingers clasped lovingly around their hands. Usually hand-holding is a father’s way of saying, "You’re my boy and I hold your hand to lead you and take care of you." Sometimes DADDY may take his son’s hand for other reasons. DAD is angry, and he is going to take son to the bedroom for a good spanking. Do you remember your father taking you to the bedroom that way? Remember trying to pull back and how DAD swatted your pants for doing so? You got ‘hauled’ to the bedroom if you resisted.

A DAD may also make a similar gesture by a firm hand on his boy’s shoulder or around his neck, but taking your boy specifically ‘by-the-hand’ will evoke strong feelings in both of you.

2. DADS bathe their sons. Bathing a boy fulfills a number of basic needs: it puts the boy’s naked body in his father’s control, and it can be a moment of tender nurturance. It can also simply perform the most obvious of goals; it can insure that a son is as spanking clean as his DAD would like him to be.

Bathing your son can also be punitive if the boy has misbehaved. A good scrubbing and lathering, performed by a properly ‘pissed’ DAD can be as effective as a good spanking. Who has a good bath brush??

3. DADS sometimes sit their sons on their knee when they want to have an intimate talk with them. They may also sit in a high seat while the boy sits on a low seat or have the boy sit on the floor between DAD’s knees. Positions that clearly express the dominant and submissive natures of DAD/son relationships are important and evocative for both a DAD and his boy.

4. DADS dress their sons in clothing that fulfills the DAD’s image of what his boy must look like. Permissive DADS may allow for their son’s taste, but many DADS know that a boy needs as much guidance in looking proper as he does in other areas of his life.

5. DADS teach sons about respect. Disrespect is not tolerated!

6. DADS may punish for a variety of offenses but purposeful disobedience is always punished.

7. DADS may use ‘strong’ language, but that is the province of MEN, not boys. Boys who speak disrespectfully or use bad language need to have their mouths washed out with soap. Soaping a boy’s mouth has many connotations and, like a good body scrubbing, can be as effective as a spanking. Hold your boy close between your body and the sink if you decide to soap his mouth or sit on the edge of the tub and put him on your knee. It makes for tremendous intimacy and is a very dramatic instance of DAD taking over his son’s body. I don’t have to explain in detail the significance of DAD putting his soapy hand in his son’s mouth and slowly and deliberately washing it, DO I ??!! Have you ever lathered your son’s naughty tongue?

8. Putting a boy ‘in the corner’ is another way that DADS assert control. If you put your ‘son’ in the corner, I recommend that you sit behind him in a chair so that he feels your presence. If you are a smoking DAD, this is a good time to indulge. A boy standing formally in the corner (pants up or down - DOWN is my own preference) feels small, exposed and embarrassed, especially with DADDY sitting behind him relaxing and supervising.

9. Playing with your son: DADS and sons learn about each other through play; DADS teach their sons many things when they play with them.

10. Hugging: This is a very important component in a DAD/son relationship. All sons want to feel the strength, protectiveness and support of their DADS. When you hug your son, you will be amazed at how powerful his response will be. Hug him a lot!!

11. Ego-boosting: All DADS need to build and support their sons’ self-esteem. Sons will usually want to do the same thing for DAD because DAD is a boy ‘s ideal. But remember DAD, your son is evaluating himself through your eyes. I truly believe that this happens almost identically in adult DAD/son relationships as it does in ‘real’ DAD/son relationships.

12. Spanking: the classic Father/son discipline.

Spanking Your Son

Here it is! The action that identifies the purpose of my writing this paper and your purpose in reading it.

What is a spanking?

A spanking is the physical punishment of a boy by his FATHER. It is the way in which the FATHER demonstrates his disapproval of some action or behavior of his son’s through the repeated smacking of the boy’s backside. A classic spanking is done with the boy’s pants and underpants taken down and the boy placed over his DAD’S knee. A spanking may be administered in a variety of ways, but however it is administered, it is always determined solely by the DAD.

Now, I am going to move into some highly personal spaces. Spanking is both incredibly intimate and individual. It is also somewhat idiocyncratic to both the SPANKER and the spankee (mostly the SPANKER since the spankee shouldn’t have anything to say about it once both participants have learned all they can about each other).

However, I am going to be completely self-endulgant here and tell you what I think all DADS should do when spanking and what all boys want DAD to do.

1. All spankings (even erotic spankings where pain is either non-existant or minimal) should involve a thorough scolding. A proper scolding puts a boy in the right frame of mind for his spanking. A scolding, well-done by a DAD, might even reduce a boy to pre-spanking tears, because loss of DAD’s approval is devastating. (Note: This must be rebuilt after the spanking. A boy has paid his debt once his bottom has been well-spanked and DAD needs to reassure his son that he loves him as much as ever.)

2. All spankings should be done on a boy’s bare bottom. A DAD who whacks the seat of his son’s pants or the white globes of his briefs is giving him a ‘Swatting’ not a SPANKING. A swatting, by the way, is also a good way to emotionally ready a boy for his spanking. DAD may take his son by the hand and purposefully bring his boy into his study and close the door. He may then take a seat with the boy between his knees and move into the scolding phase of the discipline. During the scolding, DAD may punctuate his points by taking his son’s arm, turning him slightly and dealing some good swats to the seat of his pants. This, done with the right attitude, will let ‘junior’ know that POP is really steamed. It will also build up the proper nervousness for the real act ‘yet-to-come.’

3. When it is time for the SPANKING, it is DAD alone who should do the honors. Some DADS may feel that they are in control when they ‘tell’ their sons to "Take down your pants!" But, I believe that a boy feels his DAD much more in control when DAD does that himself, and none too gently either. Pull your son up close between your knees and give him that DAD look as you snap open his britches or undo his belt. Giving his body a few little jerks while you prepare him lets him know that, "Now you’re gonna get it!" even before he’s actually gotten it!!

4. Another lovely touch, prior to any undressing, is to stand your son between your knees and, while you are scolding him, formally ‘roll up your sleeves.’ Oh wow!! Even writing that gives me a lovely chill. The image of DAD rolling up his sleeves to reveal those impressive DAD arms is powerful. Not only does it display DAD’s manly arms which are about to become machines of discipline, but there’s a genuine connection between DAD’s bare arms and a boy’s bare bottom. Remember this, DADS; it’s powerful voodoo!

5. Here’s a word of advice about undress and sex! A good spanking may lead many of us to good sex, but it can get there in stages. I believe that all spankings should begin with DAD fully dressed and a boy dressed except for that part of his anatomy ‘bared’ for punishment. A boy will feel his ‘bare bottom’ infinitely more if it is the only part of him that is exposed.

DAD may wish to turn up his son’s shirttail to clear the field for action, but leave the shirt on (at least for the first part). I also recommend the following in regard to pants and underpants. Boys are keenly aware of how DAD undresses them and they retain that awareness during the actual spanking. Where the pants and underpants are taken down to may have little significance to a spanking DAD, but it has all sorts of significance to a boy held in his FATHER’S lap.

I recommend that a boy’s pants be taken all the way down to his ankles and that his underpants be taken down to his knees. This forces a boy to deal, mentally, with two different levels of undress. It is very powerful and stimulating and underscores DAD’s complete control of the situation.

It can also be extremely effective to undress a boy during the spanking. A DAD may put his boy over his knee and begin by giving the boy a ‘Swatting’ on the seat of his pants. After this ‘warm-up’, DAD will take down the boy’s pants, place him face down again, and commence the ‘Swatting’ on his well-outlined briefs. After the boy’s bottom is well-warmed, DAD will be ready for the piquancy of the fully bared bottom and will take down his son’s underpants.

This build-up toward the ‘bare’ can be very arrousing to some DADS and sons. For others, the spanking is not real unless the boy’s backside is bared right from the start.

Completely removing pants and underpants, but leaving the shirt on, is another powerful message. It communicates, explicitly, what part of the boy’s body DAD is focused on. DAD may walk around with his shirt off because a DAD’s bare chest is part of his power. A boy’s bare chest is nothing! His bare bottom is everything!!

(Note: Boys may also appreciate the following situations during the course of a spanking; I do! A fully dressed DAD and a naked lad. A naked DAD and a naked lad!)

6. During the Spanking: DADS, talk to your sons while you spank them and insist that they respond. Communication is essential during discipline. It allows a DAD to gauge how well his son is learning his lesson and it gives a frantic boy access to his DADDY even while DADDY is whaling the tar out of him. A boy is often brought to tears as much by his FATHER’S firm voice as by the pain brought to his backside.

7. How to Spank: This is perhaps the most personal of areas. All DADS have their favorite method of administering a spanking and all boys have their favorite ways of being spanked. I personally find my DAD’s hand the most expressive implement in the world. It is seconded by his wooden hairbrush and his cane.

The position that defines a spanking to me is being put in my PAPA’s lap and being held there while PAPA ‘spanks the living daylights out of me.’ Feeling DAD’s legs under me and being suspended off the ground at his leisure is incredibly evocative. If it didn’t hurt so damn much I could lie there all day; that’s how evocative it is.

DAD, however, may need to put his son in different positions in order to administer an effective correction. Holding a boy under your arm, or putting him over only one knee may also be both intimate and efficacious for arm-swinging purposes.

Positioning your son over a chair for a good caning or strapping is less intimate in terms of physical contact, but a skilled DAD can bridge that distance through the application of his rattan cane or leather strap!

8. How Long Should a Spanking BE? As long as possible!

Hey, this is why we’re here. Don’t rush it! Savor it! A clever DAD can make a good spanking last a very long time. Between Swatting, Cornertime, Scolding, Undressing, and use of various implements, a spanking can be a major event, and it should be.

Most DADS (to quote a very wise source) will not stop spanking until their son is crying, however, no DAD stops spanking simply because their son is crying. It is up to DAD to determine when a boy has had enough. This decision is reached through a judicious combination of firmness and love.

Nothing puts a DAD and his son in closer communication that a good old-fashioned spanking.

Robert Scott was sitting on a park bench giving his son Kenneth a good, sound spanking. He had warned the boy not to get his new short pants dirty before church, but Kenny would go running off with two other boys only to be hauled out of a tree by his irritated dad. His friends beat a hasty retreat.

Irritated Dad had taken his son firmly by the hand and strode off to the nearest bench to administer a proper chastisement.

"I can’t believe that you just disobeyed me like that, Kenneth," Robert Scott said angrily. He unbuttoned his son’s pants and lowered them.

"Don’t dad!" Kenny said, jigging nervously from foot-to-foot and looking around to see who might be watching. "Please don’t take my pants down in the park!"

"Don’t be ridiculous, son," Robert Scott said dismissively. "Most common thing in the world to see a father take down his son’s pants and put him across his knee."

Robert Scott acted out these words by lifting Kennth up under the arms and, indeed, draping the boy across his knees. (from "3 D.A.D.s / 3 boys")

When a spanking is over, there is also an incredible emotional window for intimacy that is one of the reasons for spanking in the first place. All spankings, to all sons, are a way of taking down barriers to communication. The shock value of a good spanking is that it opens a boy to his DAD. This is as true in real FATHER/son spankings as in adult FATHER/son spankings.

James took Peter down and stood him on the ground. James put his hands on his hips and looked down at the blubbering boy who held on to his burning backside and just cried and cried.

Then, Peter looked up at James with a truly stricken face. James looked down at the boy and his face was calm and almost expressionless, studying his son’s expression. Peter looked confused and unhappy and then suddenly, and most surprisingly, the boy’s eyes opened wide with alarm and he said, "Daddy, please, help me!" and held out his arms.

James’ eyes blurred with tears and he grabbed Peter and swept him up into his arms.

The Father and son stood locked under the peach tree. The hay wagon took the rest of the D.A.D.s and sons back to the parking lot.

By the time it came back for James and Peter, they were standing side by side at the pick up point. James held his son close to his side, and Peter leaned against his Dad for support and strength. (from "3 D.A.D.s / 3 boys")

dedicated to all spanking DADS and sons